http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2012/06/whats-on-your-list.html
When you "consult the list", you're valuing fear.
]]>There is an active fear response and a passive fear response. If a person who is acting out of fear tries to eliminate fear, they may just become passive. In other words, they may engage in avoidance and have even more difficulty dealing with their circumstances.
There are two positive replacements for fear: (1) assertiveness and (2) love. Both involve taking action to achieve something of value. It can be (1) something beneficial to you or (2) something MUTUALLY beneficial to BOTH you and someone with whom you have a relationship.
There are two way to actively eliminate fear. First, have the courage to do something that is right, even if it is difficult. Or second, learn something and apply it. Use your mind to do something better.
Change your focus to acting on your positive values. Fear will disappear automatically, because something more powerful has taken its place.
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